Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Eph 5:22
Simple commands however are not always easy to follow and sometimes our wives need our help in learning to submit. Thankfully, I have a few good tips for you that will help your wife fulfill her Biblical role.
Become her best friend
While God’s Word commands women to submit to their husbands it never tells men that it’s their job to make sure their wives submit to them. Don’t think for second that you need to lay down the law and “show her who’s boss”!
As a husband your job is to love like Christ loves. One of the best ways you can do that is by simply being a friend to your wife.
Make sure she knows that you value her companionship, find ways to relax together and engage her in heartfelt conversation.
It will be easier and more pleasant for her to submit to you as a friend than for her to submit to you as a harsh master!
Take responsibility for your mistakes and hers
Here’s the real quality of a man, if you make a mistake you’d better admit it and fix it!
If she makes a mistake you need to fix that too but you don’t have to say anything!
You know what I’m talking about, that time when she made a poor judgement call about buying a new kitchen gadget which promptly broke the following week.
Even though it’s tempting, don’t say,
“I told you so!”
Instead suck it up and fix it for her without saying a word. She’ll love you for it and next time she’ll be a lot more likely to listen to your advice.
Become a man worthy of her respect
I’m talking about things that matter here. Take the initiative to be a spiritual leader in your family and lead by example.
Be regular in your Study of God’s Word and personal prayer time.
If you have kids make sure you have a regular time when you can read and teach God’s Word with them too.
Don’t be lazy about your “honey-do” list or anything else for that matter!
Be known for honesty and faithfulness at home and work.
Pray for her
I don’t want to underestimate this one. Prayer will change her but before it does it will change your attitude toward her.
Pray for you wife daily. Pray for her spiritual growth, pray for the Lord to show you how you can better love her.
Give her time with God
If you have young kids in the house this is vital. Let your wife know that you want her to have a time every day when she can meditate on God’s Word and pray. Help her carve out that time by taking over her responsibilities long enough so that she can be uninterrupted for at least 30 mins.
This might mean that you need to take the kids outside, or just make sure you’re around to keep things calm for a while.
When you come through that door after work don’t automatically expect that your wife has waited all day to run circles around you and make sure you are comfortable and well fed.
The fact is she’s probably glad you’re home so that SHE can take a rest!
As husbands we are called to love as Jesus loved and that means serving!
Ask her what you can do to help, find ways to lighten her load and she will thank you.
Give up your favorite things for her
We can’t ignore this verse:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her Eph 5:25
What are you ready to give up for your wife’s sake?
You should be ready to give your life but hopefully for now giving up watching your favorite team play is a good start!
Do these things guarantee that your wife will submit to you? No, but if you do them consistently they will make it more likely. Even if she still doesn’t submit to you I think you’ll find that your marriage will be better off!