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#23 How to Make Your Spouse More Attractive -Podcast

Do you sometimes wish that your spouse was more attractive? Did you know that there is something you can do about it?

In this special Valentine’s episode of Now is the Time Christina and I share 9 tips of how you can make your spouse more attractive!

Sometimes people wonder why their spouse no longer attracts them, they think they “fell out of love” or that their spouse changed. As a result they find themselves attracted to other people. This may lead to emotional and/or physical adultery and end in divorce. Even if it doesn’t go that far it will weaken the relationship and turn it into a joyless and loveless marriage.

What they fail to realize is that there are many things they can do to stay attracted to their spouse. Below is summary of the tips Christina and share with you in this podcast.

You’ll have to listen to the podcast for the detailed explanation of each tip.

How to make your spouse more attractive -9 tips

  1. Remember that attraction has little to nothing to do with physical beauty.
  2. Find your greatest fulfillment outside of your spouse.
  3. Lower your expectations.
  4. Praise your spouse to others.
  5. Compare your spouse to others.
  6. Do fun activities together.
  7. Don’t try to make your spouse like yourself.
  8. Compliment your spouse.
  9. Support your spouse in their personal growth.


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Questions: What about your spouse attracts you? What tips can you add to this list?

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I am a pastor, missionary, and preacher of the Gospel of Jesus Christ in Ukraine since 2007. God blessed me with a wonderful wife and 5 amazing children! My greatest passion is to teach, encourage, and exhort others to turn to Jesus, who is Savior, Lord, and God!

  • Great advice. I’ve found that the more I genuinely appreciate my wife and let her know that, it makes her feel the love that God designed for her to be fulfilled by in us as husbands. God first, everything else takes care of itself. Good reminders.

    • So true, Floyd, and it’s not enough just to genuinely appreciate your wife, you have to let her know. Thanks for sharing!

  • Betty Draper

    Yes, great advice. I have found appreciating each other preference, gifts, talents, quirks and other difference is important. Where I lack Ace makes up for it and where he lack I make up for it. And you are so right, putting God first always makes for a better relationship. Good post brother.

    • I think God puts opposites together for a reason, I know that in many ways Christina is different from me, but that’s good and we both end up learning from each other.

  • Dan Erickson

    I don’t currently have a spouse, but these are good tips for the future.

    • I suppose you could also apply some of the tips to other relationships in life as well.

  • Years ago, I learned the principle that the more you focus on changing/improving yourself, the more others seem to change/improve. Trying to change others directly just doesn’t work. Your tips focus on what you can do to improve your own attitude, actions and words, and these are all we really can control.

    • How true is that Kari! It’s so easy to think you can just “change” your spouse but it never really works out well in the end.

  • I just got back from vacation with my spouse. At the end of our vacation I found myself thanking God that my spouse is so different (yet similar) to me. God designed him perfectly for me. My husband has so many strengths that I lack. He is so patient! I’m in awe of him.
    Thank you for encouraging me to compliment him more!

    • You’re welcome TC, I hope you had a great vacation!

      • it was very relaxing. Now back to the hustle and bustle!

  • These are good tips. I think #5 has been very helpful for me. There are certainly ways that I would like my wife to be different, but then I look around at some other marriages and wives out there and I feel quite grateful.

    • Don’t you love the positive side of comparison?!

  • I think this is one of my favourite podcasts here, Caleb. There are so few models out there for people to learn how to take responsibility for cultivating their marriages. More and more I’m learning, by God’s grace, to see it in a similar way to a garden. If left unattended all kinds of things can begin to pop up that will make it an unattractive space to live in. But when it is properly attended it becomes a wonderful paradise to enjoy and spend time in. And then it hits me, the word husband is very similar to husbandry – gardening – and even has the same origin. Don’t ask me how I didn’t notice this before. I can be a slow learner sometimes. It’s been a wonderful insight to be given nonetheless. Great post. And great points. Especially love point 9.

    • Micah, thanks for your comment, somehow it got by me so sorry for the late response. The comparison to husbandry is very true, we can’t leave our spouses unattended or our relationships will go downhill fast.